How fast are you growing and evolving as a person? People with positive self image are always trying to accelerate and build the highest momentum for growth in their life. They make sure that each day they learn something new. Each time they fail or make mistakes but again they aren’t too hard on themselves. They know they are human and they ensure with the highest standards that they learn from the mistakes so that they don’t repeat same mistake twice or do a mistake knowingly.
Life is a series of continuous failures and successes. A person with positive self image knows that surely you will fail so many times in life just as you will also succeed so many times as long as you keep trying to succeed as many times as possible and as faster as you can. This itself eliminates fear of failing once you get to learn that failing is inevitable. Most people waste a lot of time, energy and live without trying something new because of the two biggest fear one called “Fear of failure” and two “fear of unknown or what will people say” Once you get wisdom to know the truth that people will always speak and no matter what at one point in life you will fail terribly either in your career, health, education, skills, job, business, profession, relationship, make a terrible mistake either by assumption, default, too much trusting without verifying you are able to get out of this fake comfort zone. At one time you will get even fired, not get promoted, lose a deal that you are 💯 percent sure bet, fail in an exam you were so sure you had passed, heartbroken by someone you were hundred percent you were destined together for life sometimes for no reason or out of jealousy that you don’t understand.
In philosophy you get to learn three important things that we ignore, Duality, Causation (law and effects) and Patterns ( Aristotle said “all human behavior is purposeful”)
Everything that happens to you has two sides, positive and negative, success and failure, advantage and disadvantage. In every good there is bad and in every bad there is good. A break up might look very bad until you heal from emotion and take responsibility. Start to see that as much one person may contribute to break up, there is no one person who contributes hundred percent to any heartbreak no matter how evil we may blame the other person. If you ever date a person after breaking up and they blame hundred percent from the other person run for your life. It’s until one heals from the heartbreak, emotions of pain evaporates that one takes full responsibility, heals and sees their percentage they contributed, what they did or stopped to do that made things worse or to reach the end of the road for that relationship. In return this makes you a better partner to the person you date next. If you don’t take responsibility you never grow or evolve to become a better and different person than you were. You won’t see the duality but you get stuck to the past pain, suffer with negative self image for failing. Again never date someone who haven’t healed from their past wounds or trauma of their relationship since you will just be not good enough no matter how you try your best. You must grow your teeth for dating and pluck your sucking teeths since dating for marriage is for chewing hard stuffs. You must learn to delay or cut off your sexual desires so that you date objectively and form strong bondage of friendship where you can communicate anything and everything since if you rush to sex you stop observing and listening to unsaid or body language. Sex is good in dating but at the same time very bad especially for a relationship that is geared towards marriage. If it happens too fast it ruins everything and throws caution in the air.
Causation, karma or the law of cause and effects. In the Bible “You reap what you saw” “A good tree cannot bear a bad fruit and neither can a bad tree bear good fruit” Karma as we say is always a bitch. What people do to you is their own karma but what you do to people is your own karma. Be good and go your way as Swahili people say.
Patterns; all human behavior is purposeful as Aristotle said. Everything that happens has a purpose and pattern. Even though you may not see it now or know why you will one day be wise to reflect and see why. It’s as Steve Jobs said, “In life we may not connect the dots looking forward but looking backwards” There are things you may try to understand today about what you did, how you did, what actually happened, why you never saw all that coming, why you over trusted without verifying, why you did what you did, if you only you knew what you know now, don’t try to be too hard on yourself. Some things we can only understand why tomorrow. Just know that today you are wise, you have learnt from your worst and you have evolved, you are a new person today. Romans 12:2 which is my mantra says, “Be Ye Transformed by the renewing of your mind..” The Bible doesn’t say removal but renewal.
Yes every time you learn something new you are evolving. The key to personal growth is ensuring that each day you renew your mind, renew your self image by learning new things, creating and designing a better life today than you thought yesterday. Never ever let a day pass without learning something new which is different from what you knew yesterday. We all have regret moments which means we have evolved where we reach a point and say, “If only I knew what I know today….i would not have done this or that” When you made that decision you weren’t wrong, you were absolutely right and sure since you were limited by what you knew, you made a bad mistake, failed because of what you didn’t knew. Don’t be too hard on yourself, learn and move on. Know that today you are a renewed you, a totally different person from yesterday.
The goal for people with positive self image is self recreation. You have to keep recreating and renewing yourself daily by learning something new each and every day. Be ye transformed by renewing of your mind, this should be your daily challenge. Don’t be held hostage by the mistakes, failures, crisis caused by the old version of yourself. Today make sure you upgrade your software called positive self image and put data or connect with WiFi called faith which gives you access to download the new you though positive information you learn and associating with successful people in the field of your desire. Make sure the person people meet keeps upgrading in such a way that if someone hasn’t met you in one week they have missed so much of your updates leave alone a month by how much you have learnt so many things and evolved. Remember you evolve as you put new knowledge, ideas and insights into your life. You don’t just evolve by accumulating knowledge in your head but by putting that knowledge into use. “Be Ye a doer of the word not just hearers of the word” You evolve as you learn and Do. Become a renewed person daily through learning new things daily and doing them. Learn and evolve as fast as you can. Your speed of learning and associating with successful people and doing or executing, implementing the ideas, insights you learn will put you in a record speed momentum to changing and transforming your life. Confuse your enemies by downloading the latest model of yourself with latest positive self image, a new happy you who is always happy, grateful and never complaining about anything but always in charge. Making new decisions, changes and taking responsible actions that are steering your life in the direction that you have always desired but never ever thought in your wildest dreams as possible.
Let’s meet at the top with positive self image as we commit and purpose to keep learning daily, doing as we have learnt, evolve daily as we choose to remain an incurable optimist.
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From Dr. Bonnie Kim

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