Your life is shaped by the food that you eat, books that you read, friends you associate with and spend most of the time with, songs you listen, movies, series, programs, podcasts, media you watch and listen, people, profiles, personalities you follow on social media, life experiences you have gone through, environment you grew up and you have lived in, your habits, self image you have created for yourself, personal set goals, your vision , what you believe in and what you stand for as a person.
The thoughts you think most of the time, what we call our Predominant thoughts, your self image or mental picture of yourself, your future goals, how you feel about yourself now and your future, healthy body, great sex life, spiritual, cultural, social, profession, career, talent and your hobbies, doing the things you have always wanted to do as the child. You must let the child in you command the adult in you not to take life seriously, have some fun. Toys, buy yourself the things you have always wanted to own. Treat yourself nicely, don't postpone to live today. Enjoy the process since one day you shall reach your goals and realize you feel nothing and maybe you shall have lost the energy to enjoy that Car, house, promotion, degree, status because you paid too much. Sometimes break few rules, enjoy the process. What you are frugal, be extremely frugal but what you like, be extremely lavish. Treat yourself first class. Am driven by first class thinking in everything I do, if it's a phone buy yourself something nice, clothes, shoes, belt, bags, wallet, purse, handbag, home appliances, furniture, electronics, bed, mattresses, bedding, curtains, kitchen utensils, couches, seats, dining table, coffee table, suits, suitcases, travel bags, jewelries, watches, curtains, office desk, books in your library, library shelves, wardrobe, laptop, iPad, cooking pots, serving dishes, Fridge, microwave, laundry machines, deep freezer, house you choose to build or buy, the car you buy, investments you make, membership groups you join from Rotary, Toastmasters, Lions Club, Golf club, professional groups, community groups, Alumni groups, Associations, Trade , Investments group, Benevolent groups, Dowry groups, Family groups, Professional groups etc.
Lifestyle and Growth Evolving is something we aren't taught and that's why after working and earning for your first five to ten years you can just look at yourself and gauge yourself. You can tell yourself by collection of the things we have mentioned above. You can tell yourself by the collection of the things you have. Don't fill your life with junks simply because you think the things you want are expensive.
First thing to Lifestyle of acquiring tastes, being someone with class is knowing the class itself. Donald Trump in his book, "Think Like a Billionaire" states that you must know the finest of the finest things in life. The first thing to class is knowing. If it's clothes, which are the finest, shoes, bags, drinks, cars, travel, estates in all sectors, social status, professional organizations, educational level, skills, power, politics, hobbies, investments, taxes, good life, first class life, the first thing is "TO KNOW" Bible says my people perish because of lack of knowledge.
The second thing is "TO DO" Jesus said "Be a Doer of the Word not just a hearer" You get class by starting to implement in your own small ways. Good thing is that you can even start with second hand, refurbished, renewed as long as it's first class items, gadgets, accessories, cars, clothes etc. Get to know the membership fees, Get to know if it's going back to school the fees they charge, all costs, investments, total costs, if it's skill where and how much and start savings.
The third thing is start "Asking for Help" "Offering Help" through volunteering so that you can be near those who have what you want. You have to start finding a way of how you can be close to first class people, get to know how they think, do things, plan their life, organize their life, order their life, who they talk to, books they read so that you can start buying and reading them, what they listen to, what they watch, who they associate with, what they value, their hobbies, who they look upto, seminars, conferences they attend, membership they have subscribed to. You must be hungry to be better each and every day.
The fourth thing which I think should be the first is Faith in God. Your faith in creator is a big asset because as you set your eyes on the prize which is "First Class Life" "Living a Good Life" "Living a Life of your Dreams" You will have to be crafty on your path. As Tony Robbins says "You have to fake it, till you make it" This journey has no shortcuts, so don't be deceived by get rich quick. Even changing your wardrobe may take five to ten years leave alone changing the items in your whole house. Now imagine changing your mindset, wardrobe, upgrading your social life, networking with Champions, Winners, Go Getters, First Class Thinkers who are like minded, Getting First Class level of education, Getting all Professional Certificates needed, Building a Positive Self image and building first class impressions which is not done by words but by the clothes you wear, material items you have, your phone, iPad, laptop, hairstyle, haircut, outlook form top to bottom, Car, your house.
Building yourself from bottom to the Top what call Bottom Up mindset requires long-term thinking, long-term planning, long term goal setting, being very intentional and deliberate about becoming the best you can be. I wish this things we were taught in primary school leave alone high school. We need to completely change our syllabus and start teaching a course about Failure, how to handle failures since it's inevitable. All people who are enjoying First Class in their career, profession, skill, talent have failed more times than those who are not yet we summarize their success and call them lucky little do we know that their luck was born out of the so many number of times they have risked everything, tried everything, failed again and again until failure couldn't hold them anymore. They learnt from every failure they encountered and they increased their probability of success when the 90% were playing safe, living with fear of failure, failure of unknown, comfort zone, fear or being afraid of what will people say, seeking validation because they didn't want to risk almost everything. They always forget that you can't be too safe if you really want to succeed.
A time comes where you have to risk everything and you must live your life expecting to be rejected sometimes by almost everyone, sometimes you have to live knowing that a time comes where almost everyone walks away out of your life because of your ambitions and desire for the best life. Journey at the Top, building a positive self image or having a Champion self image life isn't bread and butter. It's very tough but "OH MY" "OH MY" The first fruit of that discipline, dedication, determination, delayed gratification, denial is so so sweet that once you taste, you are automatically hooked up to continue with succes no matter what. God is so faithful because you can't suffer pursuing your intentional and deliberate goals without God giving you a first harvest.
At first when you set your goals, write them down clearly and get focused with your life, your first life must die. Law of growth is simple everything to grow must die first. Even the seeds you plant must first die before they germinate.
Sometimes the reason we don't move from failure to succes is because we don't want to die, we don't want to lose everything, we don't want to crush, be radical and abolish our comfort zone, we are too comfortable being middle class or being poor. It's like the eagle feeling pity for its kids, they kids remain kids who can't make it on their own. An eagle reaches a point where it must crash its own nest, from the fur, soft grass, hard grass, very sharp thorns, rocks, and big sticks. Once it realizes it's kids are grown to certain level, it starts to teach its young ones as a couple how to fly. That's why when an eagle is dating the female eagle must test those skills from it's ideal suitor. After they have the skills then it destroys the nest so that the kids find their own life and lifestyle. I remember as kids collecting those birds feeling sorry for them, now I know my mercy were useless and not beneficial.
Pain is very necessary and must be taught how to bear. Pain is very useful for growth, maturity, and becoming extremely firm, bold, courageous, a person of faith in your plans, course, success journey in life. The reason people are swayed easily is because they haven't faced enough pain to reach where they are in life. Never ever joke with someone who has gone enough level of pain to reach where they are. That maturity, confidence, self image, faith, boldness they have can't be bought anywhere in the world. All military, intelligence, defense, spies, police, martial arts, self defense classes knows this secret techniques of pain and the importance of pain.
Any brilliant military, soldier, intelligence, spy, martial art experts, their training has the worst level of pain possible. Their own people ensures their team goes through the worst pain technique possible in the world which they think the enemy can use and they make sure their body is used to. Pain crosses pain. If you look at Fortune 500 companies in America and most successful corporations in America more than 60% of their Top Leaders are those who have served in the army, the veterans and who have done self defense to the highest level whether TaekwonDo, Judo, Boxing, Aikido, Kung-fu etc. Leadership of the highest level demands one to have undergone an extreme level of pain program to enhance both discipline, courage, decision making, abolish hesitation in times of crisis and so on.
Sometimes you can only trust a person who has undergone pain willingly to make tough decisions than someone who hasn't. That's why a Nation is as powerful as it's the number of people who can fight to protect it. A family is as strong as having the protector. Family with someone who knows how to fight always have safety.
To reach first class you need warriors, but now being in information age, you need warriors in brains too. You need brilliant lawyers, doctors, tax experts, investments experts, health, nutrition and self wellness experts, life coaches, career experts, skills experts, spiritual experts, social experts, cultural experts, top financiers, financial experts, top politicians, policy makers, legislation experts, lobby experts etc.
As you grow today you can no longer be ignorant if you want to reach at the Top. You have to spend more time building yourself step by step, brick by brick, idea by idea, thought after thought, image after image, savings by savings, investment by investment, act of kindness by another act of kindness, pain after pain, failure after failure, until you achieve the success you have always dreamed of. Believe me it's possible and it's always worthy fighting for every day of your life. Whether it's fighting to make it in life to live the life you have always dreamed of, live a happy life, a rich and prosperous life, fighting for your dream job, fighting for your health, fighting for better policies for your country or continent, fighting for your better health, fighting for marriage, fighting for better parenting, fighting for better leadership with accountability and credibility it's always worth every second you are fighting.
Each family demands warriors who can stood up for the bullies and tell them enough is enough. Society needs more warriors. Remember we must die before we start to live. For this better life we admire to live we must know that death zone is the worst of all, almost everything crashes, you feel nothing, you don't even care, you are lifeless. Nothing excites you. Am telling after you are that phase then everything takes off radically. Your life will never change without undergoing massive pain and losses. You can't eat your cake and have it too. Always know you can't have it in both ways. Trying that way ends up in worst case scenarios and time exposes you. You can lie to people sometimes but you can't lie to people all the time.
You must be someone who must stand up for something. Your word must start meaning something. You must become a man or woman of your own words. Your word must become your bond. Your words must start being your treasure and security bond. You must start weighing your words, thinking about what you are saying so that you only say what you mean and mean only what you say. Your credibility and integrity as a person must become your chief cornerstone of your self image.
Remember your character is built on integrity, credibility, dependability, discipline, delayed gratification, faith, confidence, courage, boldness, fearlessness, intentionality and deliberateness towards going for what you stand for and what you believe in. If you aren't ready to die for something then your life in this world was in vain since you won't achieve much. It's people who have something to die for that achieves first class life. When your life starts to mean something, you get something you can die for, then your life starts to give life from the source.
Let's meet at the Top with positive self image as we choose to remain an incurable optimist.
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From Dr. Bonnie Kim
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